{"id":274,"date":"2012-04-23T17:11:39","date_gmt":"2012-04-23T17:11:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/?p=274"},"modified":"2012-09-06T17:08:06","modified_gmt":"2012-09-06T17:08:06","slug":"looking-deeper","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/2012\/04\/23\/looking-deeper\/","title":{"rendered":"Looking Deeper"},"content":{"rendered":"

Last week I wrote about the confusion and anxiety over the more recent approaches, such as the Internet,\u00a0to search for love and mentioned that we would be focusing on the 7 paths\u00a0to strong and lasting relationships. The first path is to\u00a0build solid foundations.\u00a0<\/strong>I also mentioned the first complication within that path\u00a0as being a sense of unpredictability in how to go about searching for one’s soul mate.\u00a0The second complication is the images of what we want\u00a0not being shaped by our inner needs but by Hollywood, the fashion industry, and the media. Unfortunately the “shopping list” of demands of what people want in a mate\u00a0is comprised by\u00a0expectations of “must-have” features that spring up from who knows where.\u00a0These expectations could arise from our inner needs or they could come from the culture\u00a0surrounding us. The detailed, picky specifications that people express about ideal mates can become obstacles that prevent them from connecting with reality. Physical attraction, for example, does not always translate into a long-lasting profound relationship.\u00a0You do not find your lifetime partner as a result of only an initial attraction<\/strong>. In fact that initial reaction can be brought down a few notches when we listen or speak to people and get to know them. In our society we do indeed\u00a0have a tendency to “judge a book by its cover” and\u00a0we really don’t look inside. We stay on the surface and this impairs our ability to get know someone on a deeper level. As a counselor when I am told things like, “I am sleeping with a stranger” or\u00a0“I don’t know this person anymore” or ” This isn’t the person I married” it can mean they fell into the trap of only knowing someone on a superficial level. The stuff of real relationships is being able to see into another person’s heart and to find the treasure that lies within.\u00a0If you or someone you know may need counseling, please contact Lamar Hunt Jr. or see his website at http:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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