{"id":72,"date":"2011-10-14T13:33:33","date_gmt":"2011-10-14T13:33:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/?p=72"},"modified":"2012-09-06T17:10:31","modified_gmt":"2012-09-06T17:10:31","slug":"make-that-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/2011\/10\/14\/make-that-change\/","title":{"rendered":"Make That Change"},"content":{"rendered":"

Fostering a closer connection in marriage may involve being the first to change.\u00a0Husbands and\/or wives often say, “Why should I\u00a0change first? I am tired of giving and never getting anything back.” These words are often the words heard when this course of action is first\u00a0suggested in counseling. With\u00a0this change might come vulnerability and vulnerability means risk. And taking a risk is what got a spouse hurt in the first place. You either don’t want to be\u00a0criticized again or you don’t trust that your spouse will be there for you and listen to what you have to say. Old relational wounds may open up again and you would rather just keep your distance or not even bother bringing it up again. So why should you change? Because you are the only one you have control over and you cannot simply abandon a relationship because it gets uncomfortable. Pride, resentfulness, and fear should\u00a0not\u00a0prevent you from fulfilling your marital vows. You must make every reasonable\u00a0effort to fulfill those vows. Couples either grow closer together or they grow apart and that is not good for your\u00a0emotional health. What are you doing right now\u00a0to grow closer to your spouse? How are you changing? Where are you stretching yourself? What quality in yourself do you want to work\u00a0and improve on? Oddly enough if you take the\u00a0initial step to change it usually does work. \u00a0If you are in need of marriage counseling or need some counseling, please contact Lamar Hunt Jr. or see his website at http:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Fostering a closer connection in marriage may involve being the first to change.\u00a0Husbands and\/or wives often say, “Why should I\u00a0change first? I am tired of giving and never getting anything back.” These words are often the words heard when this … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[10,11,14,28,9,6,7,8,43,38,39,12,13,37,27,29,36,42],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/72"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=72"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/72\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":410,"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/72\/revisions\/410"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=72"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=72"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lamarhuntjrcounseling.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=72"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}